Episode 19: Story of Betrayal, Porn Reframe, and Flourishing Marriage
Natasha Helfer Parker interviews Ben and Jen Johnson about their experience dealing with a porn disclosure in their marriage. They discuss the messages they heard growing up Mormon that framed their sexual understanding, their histories in regards to being introduced to pornography, the betrayal and hurt they had to face when Ben would disclose his pornography viewing behavior to his wife, meanings that were attributed to the behavior (including that their marriage might be over), and how they figured out how to reframe the entire problem into a less threatening one. In fact, their relationship actually improved. They address how they were able to shift meanings and begin a dialogue that actually enhanced self-worth for both, explored their sexual relationship, increased intimacy, and has set them on a different trajectory as far as how they want to educate their children. Ben and Jen courageously share a very personal story in the hopes that other couples like them can find productive and healing ways to resolve disclosures around pornography viewing.
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Natasha Helfer Parker runs a private practice in Wichita, KS and writes at The Mormon Therapist for Patheos: Hosting the Conversation of Faith. She also hosts the popular podcast, Mormon Mental Health.
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