Episode 24: Kink 101 - Understanding Alternative Sexuality
Natasha Helfer Parker interviews Dr. Russell Stambaugh, PhD, DST, CSSP, author of The Elephant in the Hot Tub: Kink in Context blog. They cover a variety of topics including the definition of "kink," how cultural context has affected sexual norms throughout history, and where we stand today as far as types of alternative sexuality (i.e. different forms of BDSM, cross-dressing, non-monogamy, and more). It is interesting to note that many who would consider themselves "heteronormative" have interests that would be considered "alternative" and that the kink community has much to offer as far as being ahead of the curve on the appropriate communication and use of consent.
Couples coming in with concerns around alternative sexuality, are usually facing issues where one partner finds something sexually arousing that their partner does not. How are they to reconcile these types of differences? And how do we stay away from shame or pathology ("your'e broken") types of approaches, which end up making worsening the situation for all involved? Great and informative podcast, whether you are attempting to negotiate some of these sexual differences in your own sexual relationship, or wanting to understand human sexuality at a more complex level.
Dr. Staumbaugh is a clinical psychologist in private practice. He is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, and has maintained a Diplomate in Sex Therapy since 2005. He has served in AASECT leadership since 2000, including service as a Director 2004-2009. In June, 2015, he was awarded the Distinguished Service to AASECT Award for the second time. He has chaired the AASECT AltSex Special Interest Group from 2011-15. He has been studying sexual deviance, sexual variation, and the psychology of sexuality for 33 years.
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Natasha Helfer Parker runs a private practice in Wichita, KS and writes at The Mormon Therapist for Patheos: Hosting the Conversation of Faith. She also hosts the popular podcast, Mormon Mental Health.
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